All That Anyone Would Like to know About.........LOVE....???

"LOVE for me is a basic emotion, yet you all cannot plan to fall in love or create conditions for being in love. It is something over which you can have no control. Either you fall in love or you do not. It is ordaned. However,there are some criteria according to me for
judging whether one is in love or NOT. "

“The first test is that you donot want exclusive possession of the object of your love. You wish the world to know of yourlove.

You could declare your love from the roof top. And you wish to do or say whatever makes the person you love happy .M K Gandhi said” Love and exclusive possession can never go together;
Theoretically where there is perfect love, there must be perfect non possession."

“The second test of Love is that there can be no bargain. It does not recognize reward or punishment. Love itself is a merit, and itself its own reward.
Beyond itself love seeks neither cause nor outcome; the outcome of it is one with the practice of it.
You love something or someone for its own sake and not because you want or desire a favour in return. Love is not a means to some ephemeral or non-
ephemeral end, but it is an end in itself. Love is not a response to a certain positive situation. You can go on loving...for when your love it comes back millions of times more.”

“ But if you do not give it turns into very opposite. I mean hatred.”

“The third test of real love is the total destruction of the ego. It obliterates the distinction between the self and the other by an unconditional surrender to each other; rather it is totl merger, a complete synthesis with the beloved. In true love the lover and the beloved are one. The sense of your own Identity or individuality vanishes. The other therefore, does not place a limit on the lover's freedom; rather communion with the beloved leads to unbound freedom. It frees us from limits imposed on us by our ahamkara....ego.”

“The fourth test of real love is that it knows no fear. Fear could be of unfulfilled desire. If your love springs from fear of punishment, or desires of being fullfilled,then my dear it is not LOVE. Love and fear are compatible, because in love there is no place for desire.”

“The fifth test of love is that you love what you consider to be the best. Therefore the beloved object or ideal is unique. It is the highest from the perspective of lover; from others’ respective it may not be so. For others some other ideal is bigger than this one. But for lover the beloved is the best.”

“The sixth test of real love is that the lover does not so much believe in powerless reason which merely argues but is not able to establish a direct contact with the beloved.
The lover trust his own direct experience. He does not give reasons or arguments , nor depend upon inference but depends on direct perception and lived life experience.”

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